Birthday Bash…

Journal of a Complex Mind

‘Oga! We had an agreement’, she stated gently, carefully removing his hand from her thighs.

‘Oooo! Why are you behaving like this na’, he countered, obviously, hoping to somehow convince his hand further up her thighs.

She was determined to go out!

It was her birthday and this time it was a happy birthday. The last two years had been a bit sad, a little indifferent but this year, Ruby had chosen to be happy.

With all the ‘happy birthday’ that came from close friends, there was also the demand that she went out to celebrate.

‘Ruby, you never do anything fun, you really should go out today’.

Why not? She asked herself, there was nothing like cuddling up in bed with a glass of wine and a television series at the end of the day but what better excuse to go out than a birthday celebration. However, the decision to go…

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When Cake loses its sweetness…


In my mind, Piers Morgan and I are buddies because we think alike on most topics. His desire to always point out ugly truths is no news, and true to his nature, he had a controversial response to Jennifer Aniston’s article – For the Record.

Reading Jennifer’s article made me love her even more and I would start by talking about the most beautiful part of her letter, which of course, is where she speaks about how women should be able to define themselves outside of their standardized expectations.

‘We are complete with or without a mate, with or without a child… We don’t need to be married or mothers to be complete. We get to determine our own “happily ever after” for ourselves.

This is so eloquently expressed and maybe coming from an A-List celebrity, people can really begin to think about this in line with what they want and why they really want, Read more

Staying Single versus Polygamy

A Friend (Married): A woman should not be alone, she should rather be a second wife than stay single.

Me: You are kidding, right?

I could swear that when it comes to the topic of marriage and single still, I have the weirdest conversations. This particular conversation occurred with a friend of a relative. He may have had ulterior motives for this statement but I could sense that he actually believed it.

For clarity sake, second wife, as used here, refers to marrying a man who is still married to another woman.

polygamyIf we took a poll, Read more

Girl Versus Woman

Taxi Driver: Ha Auntie! So you be woman?

Single Female Adult: What do you mean? (Obviously confused because I don't believe I look like a man).

Taxi Driver: I be think say you be girl

Single Female Adult: Huh! (Obviously still confused)

Taxi Driver: I see the pampers wen you buy for your pikin (child), so you be woman na! You no get woman body at all (I guess this means I am not big or fat or whatever a woman should look like). How old your pikin (child) be?

Single Female Adult: One (I have no idea why I said that, maybe to just end the awkward conversation or to keep the respect he had decided I deserved just because he thought I was a 'woman').

blog arts2This strange conversation (maybe, not so strange if you really think about it) occurred between a taxi driver and I, a while back.

It begs the question: what actually categorises a female as a girl or a woman? Is it

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Looking to get hitched? Apply here

Concerned friend, family or stranger: Why are you still single?

Me: Why are you still married?

Credit:Some smart anonymous person

Every time someone asks, ‘why are you still single? I wonder if that means you are supposed to wear a sign that says, ‘looking to get hitched? Apply here.

Being in love and getting married is not a lone act (Boy! I so wish it were; it sure would simplify things). Yet, it requires

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